True love on Tinder? Not so much
For those of you who are not aware of this new app, you are shown pictures of the opposite sex and either X them as unattractive or check them as attractive. If you both happen to check each other as attractive, it sets up a private conversation between you two. Unless you are a match, you will never know what the other person rated you.
The concept is definitely cool and something that intrigued me. After downloading the app five separate times and then deciding it was a bad idea every single time, I finally decided to just go for it. As I first started marking people as attractive, I started to get matches. I have to tell you, there is nothing like the rush you get when you find someone extremely attractive and discover they find you attractive as well. You have one of these moments.
For the first day, Tinder became my new favorite activity, judging and marking men as attractive or unattractive and having many conversations with my newfound boys.
Day two was even better, waking up to more and more matches. It was like I had become addicted to every confidence-boosting match I got. The majority of the men I found attractive were finding me attractive as well and honestly, I was loving it.
Yet after spending a couple of days trapped in this small dating world within my iPhone, I found myself stuck. Is this what dating has become? After having numerous men ask me to send dirty photos via Snapchat, I was starting to get annoyed. At first this was funny, but now it was making me feel almost dirty, regardless of the fact that I never sent a single one back.
I was lucky enough to meet a lot of nice guys on Tinder, but I felt like I personally couldn’t get over the creepy and dirty reputation of the app. If we started to date, would I actually want to tell people we met on Tinder? Probably not.
Personally, I prefer the natural method of meeting people. It takes no effort whatsoever for a guy to push a button and say he finds you attractive, but it takes quite a bit to muster up the courage to come say hello and ask for your phone number. You have to ask yourself which guy you would prefer.
As someone who is really busy with numerous things at this university, Tinder was a good thing for me. It was nice to know that after a long day I wouldn’t have to force myself out every night to try and meet someone.
However, in my case, I will be deleting my Tinder. As much as I liked it, I think the stigma is too much for me to handle. I met a lot of nice guys, but I do not think we were looking for the same things when it came to relationships.
At the end of the day, it really does not matter what I have to say about Tinder. You have to judge for yourself if you truly love this app or not. I know a lot of people who thoroughly enjoy tindering and some who do not. Just remember to do what is right for you and to be honest with yourself about what you want.