Time to say goodbye
When it comes to making decisions on love, is it better to follow your head or heart?
Throughout life, you are told how to be treated, who to date and what is right when it comes to love. Your head tells you what to do, regardless of what you truly want to do. You may find yourself lost in a world where your heart is not satisfied if you only listen to your head.
On the flip side, you are also told to follow your heart and passions. But what happens when what you love isn’t what’s best? You may stay with a person who has hurt you repeatedly because of your heart, and it could lead you on a constant roller coaster of emotions.
So which side should you follow?
This is where things get tricky. Following your head may lead you down the road of what-ifs. But following your heart may leave you feeling that you should have done something else, regardless of how you felt, leaving you with relationship guilt.
So, is there a perfect middle ground to balance the two sides? Generally, I would say yes — the key is to take a little bit from each side. If your heart is hurting and your head is telling you to get out, I would say get out. If your heart is happy but your head is unsatisfied, you have to be honest with yourself about the situation.
For example, Kara’s boyfriend just cheated on her and she is not sure whether to forgive him or leave him. Her head is telling her to get out immediately — she deserves better. However, her heart still really cares about her boyfriend and does not want the relationship to end.
How does Kara leave this situation feeling satisfied with her decision? She needs to realize that the trust in her relationship is gone and her heart will never really be happy with her boyfriend again. In this situation, she has to know that her heart and head will never be satisfied again. As hard as this may be — it is time to move on.
There is always a way to find a middle ground, but you need to be honest with yourself. The problem with our hearts is that they like to live in the past. If you are struggling with letting a love go, tell your heart the love you used to know is gone, and it is time to move on. Just remember, when it comes to making a hard decision in relationships, trust your instincts. Generally, your instincts are the balance between your heart and head.
