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My girl won’t let me suck her toes. This is a deal-breaker. What do I do?
How much have you communicated with her about this? It’s important to be open with your partner, especially when it comes to fetishes. Does she know how important this is to you, or have you just tried to do it once and she’s pushed away?
People in relationships are often scared to admit their fetishes, which is a huge issue. Although you may think your partner will find your fetish ridiculous, she probably has one herself that she hasn’t shared with you. If she doesn’t yet know what that fetish is, you could probably discover it through some conversation.
Do you want to keep dating her, and never be able to suck her toes? If you don’t talk to her about it, that’s what’s going to happen. You may even lose interest in your sex life and start to look for satisfaction outside of the relationship.
It’s important for your girlfriend to understand how much of a deal breaker this is for you. She may find this to be “gross,” but to you it’s incredibly hot. If she really loves you, she’ll get over it and let you suck her toes.
You can offer to reciprocate anything that she wants you to do. Does she like something that you have refused to do in the past? Maybe you can trade, or come up with some kind of compromise.
The worst thing you can do is to hold in your desires. It’s going to slowly eat away at your sexual satisfaction with her, which will in turn destroy your relationship. So bring this up, and find a solution.
Or dump her – it’s your choice. Either way, you can’t stay silent, because you’ll continue to be unsatisfied. And nobody has time for that in college.
I’m in love with two people who both love me back, and feeling like my love life is spinning out of control. How do I take charge?
How can you love both of these people, and have them love you back, when you’re not in a relationship with either of them? Maybe you’ve been hooking up with both of them for awhile … but I find it hard to believe that you’re in love with both of them.
I think you need to reassess what “in love” means to you. It’ll probably solve your problem because you’ll realize you don’t know either one of them well enough to love them.
Once you re-evaluate your definition, and if you still somehow love both of them, you have a couple of options. The first is to tell both of them that you want a casual hookup relationship that isn’t exclusive. That way, you can kind of have a relationship with both of them without lying. You can see which person you like more.
Another option is to choose one of them now and see how things go. If you don’t like the direction the relationship takes, you can try dating the other one (if that person is still available).
I don’t believe that “the one” exists for any of us. There are hundreds, possibly thousands, of people we could all end up with and be completely happy. There are billions of people on Earth, and yet we find relationships so easily after meeting a tiny percentage of them.
Therefore, there must be many possible partners out there for each of us. Maybe you’ve found two of those partners. Now you have to choose.
Remember: “Love” isn’t the only factor that goes into whether or not you’re compatible with someone. Consider the person’s intelligence, looks, friend networks, personality, and other factors that you’d notice after dating the person for a long period of time.
Weigh all of those factors and make your decision. Dating both of them would only be a temporary situation to test the waters — you’d still have to make a choice.
If you don’t choose one of them, you’ll lose them both. So make a choice. Good luck!
