As someone who has been in college a while, I can tell you that cheating is probably as common as spotting a sorority letters bag on campus. I would say every day I overhear someone talking about a drunken hookup at the bar or an accidental study night gone wild.
Some college students may blame the alcohol atmosphere and others the convenience of sexting, but I say it’s the college attitude. People come to college to experience everything that life has to offer before they become “tied down” by real jobs and even realer relationships.
Yet, as much as I would love to blame all cheating on that one explanation, I know there are thousands of reasons that people cheat, despite the one awful consequence that usually comes after this betrayal.
The harsh reality of college is that well, people will cheat. Honestly, it doesn’t surprise me. What does baffle me though is when people stay with those that have cheated on them.
As someone who has cheated in a relationship before, I can tell you now that when someone cheats it is usually because they find themselves unhappy in their relationship or they don’t actually want to be in one.
If someone cheats, you have to ask yourself if you want to remain in a relationship that you already know was an unhappy one.
As much as I am not proud to admit that I committed the ultimate relationship sin, I told you about my shameful moment because I wanted you to see that my relationship was over way before I cheated. What people don’t talk about with cheating is that the actual physical act comes long after the unhappiness sets in. Most people cheat to avoid communicating their problems, using it as an escape from the reality of a non-perfect relationship.
As I sit in my living room chair, I can’t help but wonder if people decided to communicate more in their relationships, would there be less cheating?
Honestly, I think there would be. Too many of us are scared to voice what is making us unhappy, whether it is lack of sex, laughter or trust. We need to be speaking up more in our relationships if we ever want them to go from good to great and from short-term to long-lasting.
When it comes to college relationships, never forget that if he cheats, you should really take a hard look at your relationship and decide whether he is worth the pain and loss of trust. Just remember that in the land of love, you should never settle for anything less than what you deserve and no one deserves to be cheated on.
In a world filled with crazy expectations, it is no wonder that people cheat. Some cheat on tests, others cheat on their diets and many of them cheat in their relationships. As I find myself contemplating the ultimate love betrayal, I can’t help but ask the big question here: why do people cheat?
When it comes to love, it is inevitable that you will find yourself unhappy at some point. Yet, what separates a good relationship from a great one is the ability to communicate. As someone who used to be an awful communicator in relationships, I can tell you now that if I had chosen to speak up when I was unhappy, I would never have cheated myself.
Yes, I said it: I’ve cheated.
It is not my favorite thing to admit but in the world of love, but if you don’t have honesty or trust, then you have nothing. I was unhappy and had no idea how to talk to my boyfriend about the issues we were having so I sought comfort and relief in a different person. See the thing about cheating is that if someone crosses over to the dark side, it becomes hard to see the light in the relationship.
